It's -I'm communicationally challenged- Monday, MKF 9-30

[kukalaka]

Have you ever been thinking back to a conversation you had just to suddenly realize someone gave you an opening the size of Jupiter to tell them something you've been wanting to tell them for quite a while and you didn't [img:ce389963b0]http://www.mansun-nl.com/smilies/banghead.gif[/img:ce389963b0] even [img:ce389963b0]http://www.mansun-nl.com/smilies/banghead.gif[/img:ce389963b0] notice?


My case:
My friend: Last night ER's last scene had Kerry in a lesbian bar. You know, she's not yet sure whether she's gay... [We're behind schedule.]

Possible good choices for things I could say:
Hey, I know the feeling.
She's not the only one...
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Instead I make some kind of an "I know"-statement. How on earth could I miss that opportunity [img:ce389963b0]http://www.mansun-nl.com/smilies/banghead.gif[/img:ce389963b0]

Any similar stories that would make me feel less stupid would be very much welcome.

And, is Sandy Lopez (hope I remember the name correctly, I mean the firefighter) worth starting to watch ER?

[BytrSuite]

This is being closed temporarily as it is still the weekend. It will be reopened some hours later.

[Elianna]

I guess that today's Monday, Kathy?

I think that we need an official clock. And change it weekly, so all time zones have a chance.



~Elianna

[vix84]

I can't believe you started this thread, kukalaka. It absolutely describes my night last night.

My friend was driving home from the movies, then pulled over near my house. He started giving me this whole talk about how I need to learn to trust. That it's time I learnt not to hold in my secrets/problems, but share them. He kept probing and trying to get it out of me.

Then he goes "I've sort of come up with a theory, about what's being going on with you." But he wasn't going to say it. He wants me to say it myself. He started talking about one of our friends that came out this year, and the process he went through. He was saying things like "I got to help him go through it all..." etc etc. But the main theme was "c'mon, out with it, already!"

It was a good time to tell him. Rainy night, warm, quiet car. Open-minded, understanding friend. But I froze! Communicationally challenged was me! Ergh I'm so lost.

Thanks for the place to rant

[KISMIC]

Ohhh-yeah I know that feeling, and you know if you don't say it during that moment then you never get such a great chance like that again. However I'm more like that I tell someone something and then end up regretting it.
Well I just spent from 9-3 today at a childrens care centre and yes they are "sooo cute"...but OMG how do people do this for a living, every.single.day! Well one day down, six to go!

[tommo]

I'm a northerner; we pretty much say what we think a whole lot of the time, good timing or not. Heh.

It's good that way.

[Mrs Vertigo]

Oh boy... I'm sorry, but I have to say I've mostly had it recenlty the other way around. The guy, my best friend (who is sleeping on my couch as we speak ), has stuff on his mind from time to time and dammit, [i:cec9a209e7] can't get him to spill!

[/i:cec9a209e7] If its really big stuff, that just [i:cec9a209e7] must[/i:cec9a209e7] come out, I just wait until he's drunk and ask him. Seriously.

*snicker* I'm evil, but at least its out in the open

Edited for typos

[willvr]

i got a million great opportunities to come out when i was still in the closet, but i never took them. when i finally did come out it wasn't at all the right moment and it was really akward. ick.

as for the whole ER thing, kerry and sandy are pretty cool, but they are left out of the story line a lot.

[Zahir al Daoud]

Well, I'm a Sagitarius so my talents contain not a trace of diplomacy or tact (I've lived long enough to learn some, but only some). Too often something just bubbles out that might be true, but its not the right place or time. When I'm tired this happens more often.

Guess that's another variation of "communicationally challenged," huh?

[birdblue]

I'm communicationally challenged should be my middle name I so can't... talk... it always comes out wrong and if there's something on my mind... well that's usually where it stays!

[Elianna]

I'm with Ruth. I usually say what's on my mind, and that usually gets me in trouble, especially since I have a very wierd sense of humor that only makes sense to me.

I just have problems holding back what I'm thinking. And it's really amusing, because when I'm quiet, people usually think that it's because I'm thinking, but usually it's the opposite, that my mind is totally blank.

I always WAY over share, but it's something I'm working on.

~Elianna

[Zippy]

About a month or so ago I had the perfect opportunity to tell my mum that I was gay & I even noticed it when it happened, which for me is unusual.

However I have promised my brother & sister that I won't tell my parents until their divorce has gone through to make sure they don't use it as ammunition against each other. My mum is dragging it out, it's been going on nearly a year.

Any way the conversation with my mum happened after my great uncle's wake, he was 89 when he died. It kinda went,

MUM: Your Great Uncle was gay, Your Aunty is gay, I wonder if anyone from your generation of the family is. I think is probably got something to do with the genes from your dad's side, you know about that stuff don't you Zo?

ME: Probably. [i:2ea189c004] (Even though inwardly I was screaming, yes you stupid blind woman your daughter is the third generation poof of the family, please get a clue!)[/i:2ea189c004]

It's been lovely and sunny here in the north east today, I almost enjoyed being at work the weather was so nice!

[Tulipp]

Well, at the staff meeting this morning, when it was announced that my unit is being reorganized and renamed and being given new responsibilities and having others taken away...it was probably the perfect time to stand up and say something like...

"Reorganize me right out of your plans, kids, because I'm giving notice in a month."

But I didn't say that. But it's true. .

[mollyig]

Well when my boss asked me today if I'd work late, I should really have declined and run screaming from the building. But I didn't, I smiled and said "no bother". Which has resulted in a sleepy Molly.

But, in fairness, the overtime I'll be claiming will come in handy as today I charged 160 to my credit card for two tickets to see Nina Simone.

[Pipsqueak]

Oh Lord, [b:e7c4635676] kukalaka[/b:e7c4635676], that happens to me ALL the time! You're not the only one! (cute head-banging emoticon, BTW!) Except when I miss an opportunity to say something, it's not because I don't notice at the time, but rather because I'm too scared/shy to speak up. I just cannot volunteer information about myself, even if it's some little thing that no one will care about. Don't know why. in fact, I have a really hard time talking to people in general.

If there is something on my mind, no matter how badly I want to tell someone, generally I can't say a word until/unless someone asks me point-blank. God, I can't imagine being gay and having to come out of the closet. I would just have to wear a sign on my forehead saying "ASK ME IF I'M GAY!"

My best friend from college is a very outgoing person, and we often joke that we never would have become friends in the first place if she hadn't cornered me and MADE me talk to her all during our freshman year.

[LeBuffster]

I definitely know the feeling. one time I was discussing "the-gay-topic" with my parents and I wanted to tell them, but bolted the last second. It's like my mind keeps screaming at me: "Get it out for god's sake!" but my mouth has a mind of it's own. My mother actually asked me one time if I was gay and even then I didn't get it out. My mom's not that openminded but I think that she would support me no matter what, still I couldn't tell her. It's really frustrating sometimes.

&
Diane

[kukalaka]

Glad to know I'm not the only one.

[b:31aa7877a6] KISMIC:[/b:31aa7877a6] Actually, I think I'll get another chance. He's very clever, we've only gotten to know each other more closely over the last few months and he seems to have figured out everything already. In fact, that's why I'll really need to tell him - I want to know what tipped him off in order to know what to look for

[b:31aa7877a6] Pipsqueak:[/b:31aa7877a6] [img:31aa7877a6]http://www.mansun-nl.com/smilies/banghead.gif[/img:31aa7877a6] It's really cute, isn't it? And I rather like the idea with the sign, thinking of one featuring "LOOKING FOR A GIRLFRIEND"

Most of the time I'm very open about my opinions and feelings, it's probably just because it's still rather new.

And thanks for fixing my subject, [b:31aa7877a6] Xita.[/b:31aa7877a6]

[Gatito Grande]

We interrupt sensitive and important Kitten-talk for a little Old Fashioned Sports-Fanatic [i:fe3f3aef6e] crowing[/i:fe3f3aef6e]:

Behind Batting Champ [b:fe3f3aef6e] Barry Bonds[/b:fe3f3aef6e] (.370!!) and w/ the [b:fe3f3aef6e] longest playoff-entering win streak in NL history[/b:fe3f3aef6e] (8 in a row!) my [b:fe3f3aef6e] San Francisco GIANTS[/b:fe3f3aef6e] will take to October like . . . like . . . f(lies) take to .

Chop down the Braves--- [b:fe3f3aef6e] GO GIANTS!!![/b:fe3f3aef6e]

GG [i:fe3f3aef6e] Been waiting since before I was born: NEXT YEAR IS HERE, BABY! Right, Rally?[/i:fe3f3aef6e] Out

[kbk3022]

I'm going to the game Wednesday. Tom Glavine against Russ Ortiz should make for an excitin' game. A pitching duel perhaps.

Kasey

[AutumnT]

Broncos. Monday Night Football.

That is all.

[Guess]

Wow! So other people do that too??? Thank god! I was starting to think it was just me... It happens all the time, and then I usually hate myself for days. And sometimes I say stuff and then I wish I hadn't...that's really bad too.
But anyway, it's great to know that I'm not alone...that's why I love this board

Guess...?
Julia.

[Killin Joke]

Oh yeah... /sigh/

[Rally]

Autumn, Enid, welcome to my nightmare.

[Taz]

I say whats there is to say. I come from a family of outspoken people. Luckily for me my grrl and age has taught me some tact.

[jeepchick scully]

I miss out on chances to say things so many time. 10 minutes after the conversation topic is over I end up thinking of some good comment. Then I don't wanna bring it up again just because I am weird. But, I am also glad that I'm not the only one who is "communicationally challeneged."

Best Wishes,
Shanna

[relativegirl]

I miss John Elway.

[slayer747]

me and my best friend were inside a bookstore last summer (around april) and we were talking and i was getting all angsty and she could tell that something was bothering me. by that moment i could just have said "i'm gay.", instead i said "i hope i could make you understand." well, given the circumstances then, i know that if i tell her, things will not be... pleasant so i waited. but by that time, ijust really wanted to tell.

[AutumnT]

Hell, I miss our defense. And our special teams as well. It was like anything that could go wrong did. Twice. On national TV. sigh.

[mscheckmate]

Congratulations to Gatito Grande, Rally, and any other San Francisco Giants fans on the Kitten board.

As a life-long L.A. Dodgers fan, it hurts me physically to write this. (Oh, God. Where have we heard that before? But, unlike what's-his-name, I'm not BSing.) The Giants were just a flat-out better team this year, and I wish them the best of luck in the playoffs.

Sigh. Wait 'til next year.

[Elianna]

There will never be a next year for the Dodgers.

Did I mention that I'm bitter? To give you a hint of how long my anger at the Dodgers has lasted, I'm still mad at them for trading Piazza.

~Elianna